|The author and her daughter|
Of course, my mom wished on me the fate that most moms do, that I would someday have a child just like me. Well, as fate would have it, I actually do have a little girl who is so much like I was as a child, and yet so very much her own person. For instance, her prissy, sassy little attitude-yep, all me! But her love of science fiction is not me at all. She has a desire and a need to build and create (and I’m talking robots, movies, etc.), while my only need to create is a story on a page or something yummy to eat. However, we both must do whatever it is we endeavor to do absolutely perfect and giving it our all.
I do believe there are certain “traits” that are God given and born within us; but much of who we become is shaped by our upbringing and by society’s response to us. As parents, it is key to communicate and build a loving foundation around the traits and mannerisms we have in common with our children, and to embrace and learn from our differences.
All of that said, however, I must say that I do not truly know her birth parents so I cannot know which of her traits and mannerisms may naturally be a part of who she is. What I do know is that God created an amazing little being and charged my husband and me with raising her to be the best person she can be. We are entrusted with this life and we have been called to teach her about love, compassion, kindness, and so much more. We must make sure she has the tools she needs to thrive in this world, and to be a reflection of God’s love to all she meets.
By Andrea Ceely
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