|by Jolene Durrant|
Written by an adoptive mother and illustrated by adopted children, this book tells the story of Annie, a birth mother. It is simply written and easy for children of all ages to comprehend. The story walks a child through pregnancy, the decision to place, and the future. Each point throughout the book serves to underscore the love that a birth mother has for her child, a reassurance every child needs, and an affirmation for birth mothers.
The author encourages birth mothers to personalize the book, covering Annie’s name with their own and adding or changing specific details and pictures to make the story more meaningful for the children they place. My first introduction to this book was when our son's birth mother gave it to us at placement to read to him. Two copies of this book make an excellent face-to-face or placement gift: one for the birth mother to keep, and one for her to personalize and return to her child at a later date such as finalization or first birthday.
The story serves as a useful tool for introducing conversations with your child about adoption. Durrant includes a "Notes to Adoptive Parents" section giving guidelines and helpful tips about talking to your child about his or her adoption and birth parents. What better way to honor a birth mother's choice to place her child than to convey the message from this book that her decision was made out of love, and that her love will never end.
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